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New criteria = more waiting

Well, I received an email from the agency we’ve selected today. I had sent an inquiry about all the rumors I’d heard regarding new requirements established by the Chinese government. We were concerned that we wouldn’t meet a few of them. And we were right. The net worth requirement is a bit out of our reach at this point. We’ve only owned this house a little over a year and our equity just isn’t that high and with two student loans and other debt, we’ll have to wait a bit longer to get more numbers on the asset side than the liability. We shouldn’t be too far off, but it might take a year depending on how my next contract pans out. We knew this was a possibility so we started talking about what we want to do in the meantime. Just keep hoping that we’ll have a little miracle on our own? Or pursue adoption here at home? We’ll have to discuss all of this a bit more. I’d called several months ago to inquire about the fost-adopt program here in TN, but we have to be willing to adopt children up to 9 years old and we’re just not sure we’re ready for that yet. But we do have options. And it even looks like I might ovulate this month, although there is no way to tell for sure or if it will be a solid ovulation if it does happen. But we’re forever hopeful. Someday we’ll have kiddos scurrying around here and we’ll complain about it being too loud and too messy. In the meantime we’ll just love each other and keep praying.

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More waiting

DH and I have been waiting to apply until we have some additional information, but we’d hoped to be able to do so soon. I’ve just read through the new guidelines established by the Chinese government and it looks like we’ll have to wait until at least March now after we’ve been married for 2 full years. I need to confirm this requirement as well as some others with the agency, but it sounds like China is tightening the requirements. None of the others should effect us, but I want to go over some just to make sure.

But if we have to wait, then we’ll wait. We know we’ll get there eventually, we just feel too compelled to China.

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Phew!

I’ve been holed up trying to get my last book finished so I can turn it into my agent before the holidays, needless to say we haven’t made any headway on anything else. Which includes the house, that now is badly in need of a good scrubing. DH and I are trying to decide who we want to ask to write our letters of recommendation, I think we’ve decided on one, but we’re unsure of the other two. We need to have those selected before we mail in the application. I also have to finish compiling our net worth, I have some insurance stuff I have to look up for that. And this application is the easy part of the entire process, so I can only imagine what we have in store for us as we progress. Bring it on, we’re ready.

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I found this video yesterday and it’s so moving. Grab some tissue before you try to watch it.

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And if anyone knows the song played on that video, please let me know.

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China’s Lost Girls

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I’ve mentioned this once before on here, but I thought I would give a brief overview for anyone who hasn’t seen or heard of it and is interested in adoption in China. It’s an hour-long documentary done by the National Geographic and hosted by Lisa Ling and it goes into China’s one-child policy and all of the windfall that has created. They follow a group of families there to pick up their daughters and explain how in the Chinese culture, boys are preferred so that when a couple has a little girl, they often abandon them in order to try again, so to speak. Since it is illegal in China to abandon a child, these baby girls are left in markets and on busy streets where they are sure to be found.

At one point they show a scene where a mother is back for her second daughter and she puts a flyer up in the park where her first daughter was found – a picture of her as an infant and a current one with a little bit about her adopted family and her life in America, all translated into Chinese so the people in the park can read it. They show one man who is so humiliated by the situation and you just feel for these people who have been put in such a difficult position by their government. It was a very moving and well-done documentary and I highly recommend it for anyone who’s interested in Chinese adoption. It is available for rental on Netflix, by the way.

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Lingering thoughts

I can’t stop thinking about something one of the father’s told us yesterday at the meeting. Somebody asked about what happens to the children if they’re not adopted. The father explained that the orphans who are not adopted are released from the orphanages at the age of 15, not only do they not have a family, but they have no real name and no official “papers” which allow them to find employment or housing or a spouse. So essentially they’re sent from the orphanage with no hope of having any kind of life, destined to spend the rest of their time on the streets. I have a 14 year old nephew, only a few months difference between his age and these kids who are left to wander and forage for food and shelter. That breaks my heart.

I can’t seem to stop thinking about these kids. The fate for older orphans in our own country can certainly be desolate, but at least here they can marry and create their own families and they can find gainful employment. They can make a life for themselves. Regardless I simply find the state of affairs when it comes to orphan statistics staggering. DH and I will do what we can over our lifetime together, but we certainly can’t do it all. We neither have the money nor the resources to care for all of these children, but we can spread the word and hope that adoption continues to be “popular” so that more and more of these children, both internationally and domestically, are given options for their future.

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Adoption meeting

This morning we attended our first adoption meeting and if we had had any last minutes concerns or questions, they certainly would have been resolved. We didn’t receive a ton of new information, but only because we’d already viewed the DVD’s that they showed. But meeting the families who’ve completed this journey as well as their beautiful daughters, it was inspiring and moving and confirming of this journey we’ve been called upon to take.

Not only that but we certainly received confirmation for what we had already felt fairly sure of – CCAI is the agency for us. There were two families there today who have used them and they couldn’t say enough good things about them. Not only that, but another family who had adopted two daughters from China had used a different agency, but came in contact on both trips with CCAI people and had glowing compliments. In the last two days I’ve actually been in contact with a staff member from CCAI and she was extremely prompt and helpful with answering my questions. So now all we have to do is fill out the application.

Before we do that we’re working through some prelimary concerns of our own, primarily the financial burden. We’re in the process of gathering the information to complete a basic net worth worksheet so that we know with some certainty that we will pass those requirements. The next stage will be the homestudy and I’ve received a recommendation for a local agency today – I will research that, but I’m sure they’ll do a fine job. So we’re still not officially IN the process yet, but I’m so eager to be. I simply can’t wait until we begin the journey to bring our daughter home.

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