We have another failed match. We’re just at a total loss. I spoke with our contact at the agency and she said that in all her time there she’s only seen 3 failed placements. It just seems statistically improbable that 2 of them would be the same couple, but I guess we’re living proof. Not sure what we’ll do from here because our adoption fund is now drained.
Our timeline
8/16/07 Failed Placement
8/14/07 MATCHED again!!!
8/01/07 Failed Placement
7/27/07 MATCHED!!!
7/3/07 Received call about potential situation
6/13/07 Applied to second agency
6/11/07 Completed homestudy
4/22/07 Started homestudy
3/21/07 Applied to adoption agency
10/17/06 Decided to stop TTC and pursue adoption
9/06 IUI w/Femara & Follistim - negative
8/06 IUI w/Clomid - negative
7/06 IUI w/Clomid - negative
5/06 miscarriage at 10 weeks
2/06 IUI w/Clomid - we're pregnant!
1/06 diagnosed with PCOSI Would Gather Children
Some would gather money along the path of life. Some would gather roses and rest from worldly strife, but I would gather children. From among the thorns of sin I would seek a curl and a gorgeous toothless grin. For money cannot enter in the land of endless day. And roses that are gathered soon will wilt along the way. But, oh, laughing children, as I cross the endless sea And gates swing wide in heaven I can take them in with me. ~AnonomousArchives
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My heart breaks for you and Paul.
I’m so sorry this happened. It’s just crushing.
Oh, Robyn. I’m so, so sorry! I can’t believe this has happened again. My heart’s just broken for you.
Robyn, my prayers are with you.
Oh, Robyn….I’m so sorry….I don’t even know what to say… other than my prayers are with you and Paul.
Oh, Robyn. I am just so, so sorry. What a complete and total heartbreak. I’m so shocked and stunned I don’t know what to say. We’re praying for you and Paul here in Austin.
Robyn and Paul, I’m so sorry. If there’s anything I can do, please let me know.
Delores
Well crap. I am so sorry. Apparently you and Paul are such positive people that just meeting you is enough to give moms the courage to try to make a go of it on their own. I know that there is still a baby on its way to you. They say nothing worthwhile ever comes easy. Your child is going to be worth all of this. Love you guys. Anything we can do about the adoption fund?
Pam and any others who are interested —
Cyndee and I are already talking about organizing another adoption fundraiser–Maybe this time an on-line auction. If anyone is interested in donating, or participating, etc, you can email me privately and I’ll keep you updated when we have more info.
emckaskle at austin.rr.com
I think an auction is a GREAT idea. Let me know what I can do to help.
I’m stunned! And so, so sorry. My prayers are with you.
I’m so sorry, Robyn.
And I’d love to help with the online fundraiser–either donating and of course advertising and spreading the word.
I’m so sorry. What an awful time you’ve had.
I am so very sorry. It just isn’t fair that this had to happen once, much less twice.
My heart goes out to you.
XOXO,
Kristen
Robyn,
I found your website through the “Lost and Found” site – I’m so sorry for what you and your husband are going through. My husband and I also had a failed match this week. My heart goes out to you. God bless you both.
Gawd, this just sucks. I’m so sorry this is happening to you.
Robyn and Paul– I cannot tell you how sorry I am this has happened to you again. I KNOW you will get a baby and be the fabulous parents you will be. Keep the faith.
Elizabeth
I’m so sorry.
Robyn, I’m so sorry.
I’m so very, very sorry Robyn.
I am so sorry you are dealing with this……hugs
Robyn, I am so sorry.
I found your website through Mel at the Stirrup Queens and I just wanted to tell you to hang in there. A good friend of mine and her DH had two failed matches within a few months (also where birthparents changed their minds last minute- heartbreaking!) and thought they’d never have a baby. I’m happy to report that they just picked up their baby girl (the first two were boys, so they had all “washed and non-returnable” boy clothes!) and are in TX right now, with their daughter in a hotel, papers signed by the birthparents, waiting to complete ICPC. It was a long and painful journey for them and things looked bleak at times, but it did work out for them in the end. Your story reminded me of hers, so I wanted to let you know that you’re not alone, and that there is still hope.
I am very sorry that you had to face this. Take care of you during this difficult time.
I’m stopping by from Mel’s and wanted to say how sorry I am for this loss. Sometimes it seems like life singles us out for heartache. I wish there was something I could do to help. I hope you find the energy (and money) to keep trying.
Robyn,
Hi, I read your post on the forum and came over to read your blog. I just wanted to say how sorry I am. I’m a bmom of two bsons and I wanted you to know that not all emoms/bmoms out there waver on their decision and that if you do decide to continue, I hope that you’ll find the right match for you and that your family will be adding a new member soon! I wish I could tell you not to give up, but I’m not in your shoes and understand the many factors that influence whether or not to go on. Just know that you’re in my thoughts and I hope to be reading good news soon!
~MDBB
“Lost and Found” directed me here, and I wanted to let you know that you have another supporter out here in the blogosphere. I’m so sorry to hear of this failed placement and the drainage of the adoption fund. I sincerely hope you get what you’re looking for, you certainly deserve it.